Journeying into the unknown
To go, or not to go. That is the question…
Warm-up for the big throw
In my childhood, we worked a lot on our little farm: fed the cows every day, milked them, collected hay from the meadows, weeded the garden, chopped trees in the forest, gathered corn and put it from the trailer into bags, and many times we even became bronze from the sun picking elderberry too. The closeness of nature and animals has its own romanticism when you breathe in the smell of the drying hay in the meadow, listen to wild chirping crickets’ acapella or when the moo-cow licks into your palm. In everyday life, I’ve learnt to appreciate work, trustworthiness and have became thankful to Mother Earth for feeding me via plants and animals. But looking back to this period I understood one more thing too… work has to be held in check, the methods with blood and sweat don’t make us happy. They take time away from our personal recreation, we burn out and become an intolerable person.
This led me to try learning smart and efficient solutions at a personal level too and for this I am not afraid of trying out new methods either. Thus, I stumbled upon a book called “The secret – the law of attraction”, and I started becoming interested in this “power of mind” thing. It is quite far from the material worldview which was taught to me at home and in the school, but I don’t care about these barriers at all- if I sniff a new and useful method somewhere, the least I can do is find out more details. That’s why a little bit later I went to the Hungarian “mind control training” and the first surprise was that the training had many participants. During these days, I got trustworthy explanations about the way the method works. After the training my next step was to apply the learnt techniques in my daily routine, so I stopped using self-limiting words and sayings: like instead of “difficulty” I use the word “challenge”, or I changed “the problem is”, “it is not possible” to “how can I solve it” expressions. simultaneously, I practiced daily visualisation, which means in the mornings I imagined myself reaching my goals in a relaxed state for a duration of 5 minutes, and I was glad to see them in front of my eyes.
Yes, but life is not just about us and reaching our goals alone, but rather about our relations with other people too. Moreover, it might just be that human relations are the meaning of everything (but that’s philosophy). I have also observed, that malfunctioning relations take away PLENTY of time and energy, independent of the type: friend, family or love bonds. If there is some problem, I cannot think of anything else, my brain is continuously working, I assume, expect, misunderstand and just go deeper towards an emotional sinkhole. Therefore, I have decided to change this, because as a handyman I know that if something goes wrong then it is possible to fix it. So, I found a book called ‘Eckhart Tolle: The New Earth’, which I can describe as the user manual for human beings, it helped me a lot with understanding people and my relationship with them. The first time, when I had it in my hand was in 2012, but after the first few pages it seemed like a brainwashing, sect book, so I stopped reading. One year later, however, one of my friends suggested it for solving problems in love relationships, which was a concern for me at that time. It is not an easy-read, but it made clear a lot of things not only in the area of relationships but generally from the point of human relations as well. I understood that my relations didn’t need to be fixed but I had to change my attitude towards other people and accept the fact (without any judgment) that every act has a reason that is also shaped by environmental factors. Of course, I haven’t become Buddha after reading the book, but thanks to continuous learning I can live my human relations with more and more understanding, love and thereby more efficiently and without suffering.
With all of these thoughts, I think I stepped onto the path of mindfulness as well, where the next station was the Hungarian “ConsciousnessBase” (web page of consciousness people and information), where I found more and more “love and life efficiency” readings and informative videos. Amongst these materials were the 4th Dimension self-improvement Open University’s thoughts, which drew attention to the importance of our responsibility for our own lives and with it, to unlimited possibilities. I liked them so much that I went to their course at the university, and looking back, that was the last push towards my life-changing decision. At first, the atmosphere of training was a little bit unusual after the fancy company events that I was used to attending, but the message found me in such a way that I couldn’t miss even a single word, my attention was totally captivated. It strengthened my own experiences and insights and put them in an easily understandable and logical structure at both an individual and social level. I felt strengthened in the feeling that if I don’t agree with something then I plainly don’t participate in it and arrange an alternative solution which fits perfectly for me.
What did this mean for me in specific terms? Introspection, lists, goal visualisation and many exciting moments. But I don’t go too far this time, you’ll surely find out more in the next blog post!
So, until then I say goodbye with a nicely drawn video about how we can realize our dreams. I am also in the process but based on my experiences so far I truly think it is possible to achieve. My question for today is, do you dare to dream?